Well, here I am, older, wiser (hopefully), stronger, and humbled. I've been through quite a bit since I last blogged, but nevertheless I am constantly learning and growing as a person.
I think that sometimes we live in the moment of our emotions, forgetting the history of a relationship or friendship. Letting these moments of hurt or anger consume us. For me, it can take anywhere from one to a few days to process through my emotions and return to logical thought. When emotions are running wild it can be easy to make rash judgments or say hurtful things. I've always regretted at least some if not all of everything I've said while angry - even if it was a true reflection of how I felt at the time. As emotions are purged and logical thought returns, I've found that even if my feelings are the same, my perspective on the situation changes.
I think that one of the most pivotal parts of adult relationships (friendships, colleagues, marriage, etc) is conflict resolution, and the more diverse we are, the more conflict resolution skills are required. It is easy to resolve issues with someone who thinks exactly like you, but it is difficult to relate to someone who is nothing like you. Difficult, but oh so worth cultivating those friendships. For it is through diverse ideas and perspectives that we truly grow into well rounded individuals.
I think that sometimes we live in the moment of our emotions, forgetting the history of a relationship or friendship. Letting these moments of hurt or anger consume us. For me, it can take anywhere from one to a few days to process through my emotions and return to logical thought. When emotions are running wild it can be easy to make rash judgments or say hurtful things. I've always regretted at least some if not all of everything I've said while angry - even if it was a true reflection of how I felt at the time. As emotions are purged and logical thought returns, I've found that even if my feelings are the same, my perspective on the situation changes.
I think that one of the most pivotal parts of adult relationships (friendships, colleagues, marriage, etc) is conflict resolution, and the more diverse we are, the more conflict resolution skills are required. It is easy to resolve issues with someone who thinks exactly like you, but it is difficult to relate to someone who is nothing like you. Difficult, but oh so worth cultivating those friendships. For it is through diverse ideas and perspectives that we truly grow into well rounded individuals.
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